Frequently Asked Questions

For those of you who don't know how this adoption came about...let me answer the questions I've been asked most frequently & hopefully that will help to fill you in!

Were you planning on adopting? No...not right now! Linc & I have actually been talking about it every month or two for the past year or so, but the timing was never right. We would start talking about it and then automatically find ourselves talking about something else and say, "Wait...weren't we talking about adoption?" That happened every time we talked about it. We just figured we would adopt after we had a few kids of our own and when Linc was a doctor & we had money. :)

How did the birth mom find you? She is in my sister Melissa's ward. Melissa was sitting next to her in Relief Society and asked to hold Kylee. The birth mom pulled Melissa aside and told her that they were putting her up for adoption, that they had met with 4 couples from LDS Family Services & hadn't felt good about any of them, & that the first time she had felt peace was when she saw Melissa holding Kylee. She asked Melissa if she had thought about adopting. When Melissa said no, she went on to tell the birth mom our story & we ended up meeting them that day. I found out later that the birth mom felt very strongly that she needed to talk to Melissa about it and that it was VERY uncomfortable for her to do so...but I am so glad that she did! :)

Can the parents take Kylee back if they want to? No they can't. They have signed over all of their rights to LDS Family Services. Basically LDS Family Services is responsible for Kylee until we finish our certification and finalize. An easy way to describe it is that we are Kylee's foster parents until the adoption is final. The only way this wouldn't work out is if some major issues came up in our paper work that made us unfit to adopt...which we are assuming won't happen! :)

When will the adoption be final? LDS Family Services and our attorney estimate that it will be final in about 5-6 months from now. We will be able to bless Kylee and be sealed to her when it is final.